top of page

Same-sex marriage, is it ethical?

Tying the knot or in other words marriage is known as the social union or legal contract between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between the spouses. Normally done between two people from the opposite sexes. However, marriage between two from the same biological sex or gender identity has also been recognized to be marriage in some countries, which is known as same-sex marriage or gay marriage. Legal recognition of this type of marriage is sometimes referred to as marriage equality, equal marriage, particularly by people who support it. Today, this is considered as one of the biggest ethical issues in the world and it has been debated all around the world and not accepted in most of the countries. Personally, I think even the few countries which has legalized same sex marriage should ban it because same sex marriage tops the list of being unethical.

However, looking at what those who support it have to say about why gay marriages should be or can be allowed, there are many reasons. Firstly, it’s their own right, or in their words it’s no one’s business if two men or two women want to get married to each other. Considering they are in love they should be allowed to publically celebrate their commitment and receive the same benefits of marriage as opposite couples. So, traditional marriage isn’t there in their context.

Moreover they claim that same sex marriage is better than prostitution and fornication. Apart from freedom or right to marry their own choice, to these couples, gay marriages could be helpful in bringing financial gain to state and local governments. Even if it might bring some economic gain to the state or government body it doesn’t make it ethical or even fit enough to be made legal, because the harm of same sex marriage outweighs the benefits. The state or government body supports the traditional marriage because children may result from it and it lacks a reason to legislate to promote relationships that do not produce children. The fact is marriage is not just about love or money but its more dynamic and well known for building a rightful family.

One of the main reasons why the State bestows numerous benefits on marriage is that by its very nature and design, marriage provides the normal conditions for a stable, affectionate, and moral atmosphere that is beneficial to the upbringing of children—all fruit of the mutual affection of the parents. This aids in extending the nation and strengthening society, an evident interest of the State. Homosexual “marriage” does not provide such conditions. Its primary purpose, objectively speaking, is the personal gratification of two individuals whose union is sterile by nature. It is not entitled, therefore, to the protection the state extends to true marriage and is ethically and morally wrong.

Moreover, the supporters of Gay marriages also claim that same sex marriage will do us a favor by adopting the children who need a family. It is a fact that in the US, 100,000 children are waiting to be adopted but, they are not waiting to be adopted by two fathers or two mothers. They want a mother and a father just like all normal families. A child to exist in a same sex marriage would be a big challenge because firstly the child would be confused as to call ‘mommy’ to both her parents and ‘daddy’. For instance, the childhood went well and the child might have got adjusted to the fact of two moms or two dads, but what will happen when the child joins school?

How can the parents protect the child from all the bullying which is going to take place at school for being in a family so different and which is not accepted by society?  Definitely the parents will not be able to stop the society from pointing fingers at the child because they are the ones who brought it upon the child. So it is enough evidence to prove that same sex marriage is a selfish desire of two individuals to achieve their happiness in being together rather than about providing a secure and healthy life to the children or any other addition to the family.

In addition, studies suggest that children reared in intact homes, with both mother and father, fare best in educational achievements, emotional health, familial and sexual development, and child and adult behavior. Those raised in gay marriages tend to be emotionally disturbed and more secluded from other children due to the background they are from which makes them feel strange with other children from normal families. Girls who are raised without or away from fathers are seemingly at higher risk for early sexual activities and teenage pregnancy.

Children without a mother are deprived of the emotional security and unique advice that mothers provide. An April 2001 study published in American Sociological Review advised that children with lesbian or gay parents are more likely to engage in homosexual behavior. In a book “Growing up in a Lesbian Family: Effects on Child Development“ by two PhD holders, 25% of sampled young adults raised by lesbian mothers had engaged in a homoerotic relationship, compared to 0% of sampled young adults raised by heterosexual mothers.

According to the people who are in favor of same sex marriages, if marriage is about reproduction, then infertile couples would not be qualified to marry. Ability or wish to get children has never been a qualification for marriage, however, the two people in the marriage being of opposite sex is and has always been a qualification for marriage, morally or ethically. Some people also say that if same sex couples who want to get married are not allowed to get married they will be subjected to mental disturbances. The idea of same sex relationships is also, in most of the cases, a mental problem because it’s an idea they believe or a trend they follow.

Of course it occurs naturally too but nowadays the younger generation is falling into its traps just because they want to follow a trend. So does it qualify us to make it legal because those might get mentally disturbed? I believe giving them therapy to straighten their thinking would be ethically and morally more beneficial to all of us rather than trying to make an unethical thing ethical. If we should listen to them then we should also listen to a mentally retarded person who wants to get married.

Gay marriage could possibly lead down a “slippery slope” ending with giving people in illegal, incestuous, bestial, and other nontraditional relationships the right to marry. Above all that same-sex marriage is incompatible with the beliefs, sacred texts, and traditions of many religious groups. The Catholic Church, Presbyterian Church, Islam, United Methodist Church, Southern Baptist Convention, Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, National Association of Evangelicals, and American Baptist Churches USA all oppose same-sex marriage. Expanding marriage to include same-sex couples may lead to churches being forced to marry couples and children being taught in school that same-sex marriage is the same as opposite-sex marriage.

Same- sex marriage or gay marriage even though seem to have many supporters in the past and the present in different countries of the world it has been legalized in very few countries comparably. Even though in some countries it has been discussed informally within the government or parliament, like China, France, Germany, New Zealand, UK, and Turkey etc. It’s an issue which is totally against law of nature and is unethical. This is the most important reason. Whenever one violates the natural moral order established by God, one sins and offends God. Same-sex “marriage” does just this. Accordingly, anyone who admits to love God must be opposed to it.

The major religions prove this in their sacred books. In the Bible also teaches how God punished Sodom and Gomorrah for the sin of homosexuality: “The Lord rained down sulphurous fire upon Sodom and Gomorrah. He overthrew those cities and the whole Plain, together with the inhabitants of the cities and the produce of the soil.” (Gen. 19:24-25). In the Holy Quran also it is mentioned “We will bring down on the inhabitants of this city a devastating punishment from heaven because of their deviance.” We have left a Clear Sign of them behind for people who use their intellect. (Qur’an, 29:34-35). So, marriage is far beyond to be taken simple. God created us in couples, in fact everything in couples.  So with all those harsh warnings when it is called a sin and yet if we go down that road of homosexuality what else can we call it other than blasphemy?

To conclude first of all, sexual behavior and race are basically different realities. A man and a woman wanting to marry may be different in their characteristics: one may be black, the other white; one rich, the other poor; or one tall, the other short. None of these differences are overpowering complications to marriage. The two individuals are still man and woman, and thus the requirements of nature are respected. Same-sex “marriage” opposes nature. Two individuals of the same sex, regardless of their race, wealth, stature, erudition or fame, will never be able to marry because of an insurmountable biological impossibility.

Secondly, inherited and unchangeable racial traits cannot be compared with non-genetic and changeable behavior. There is simply no analogy between the multiracial marriage of a man and a woman and the “marriage” between two individuals of the same sex. As to my own opinion goes, same-sex marriage is unethical and immoral, and so should not even be considered by those who believe and respect the laws of nature. Just like every human being has desires and not every desire has to be fulfilled, same-sex marriages should not be considered as a true marriage but if life for such becomes inseparable, they may live as partners but marriage cannot happen between them and even if done it cannot be and should not be considered marriage.

317 views0 comments

Recent Posts

See All

Blooms Taxonomy technique

My lecture on Ethic is on Tuesday (12/2/13) but since it is a holiday I only have to write what I have learned in the tutorial. As I mentioned before, since there was no lecture due to holidays, so Mr

What do you not wish for yourself, do not do to others

After Mr. Hamid explained the lecture on Eastern Ethics, I have gained some knowledge of eastern philosophers’ background and their ethical practices and theories. The lecture covered the ethical theo

We should follow the rules

Today’s lesson was quite an interesting lesson. It is about ethics from different countries and how they apply to their daily lives. The first country to introduce about the ethic is China. The famous


bottom of page